My Self-Esteem Has Definitely Picked Up Steam
Recently, one of my favourite blogs (http://fattymcblog.blogspot.com) had a post on something called "hogging", with a link to an article written about it. For those of you who are not familiar with the term, hogging is a group activity. The group consists of a bunch of late teen or 20-something males (although I'm sure men of any age aren't exempt) who go out to bars and deliberately pick up fat women to have sex with. They consider this "settling" ... getting their dicks sucked is better than no sex at all, and most other women wouldn't give them the time of day. They have sex with these fat women, then either run as fast as they can and tell all their friends about their exploits, or in some cases even arrange to have their friends watch from a closet or some other area while he is taking advantage of the fat female.
Anyway, that post got me thinking a lot about my younger days. I was definitely "hogged", allright. When my friends and I would go out to bars together, I would always be the one sitting alone at the table while my friends were asked to dance. Or guys would send over drinks with a note for my friend(s), but not for me, and I would feign excitement for the friend while thinking, "Motherfucker! Why doesn't that ever happen to me?"
I'm sure that I was considered a "last resort" by many of the guys I met and made out with. I actually had full sex with very few of them (I could probably count them on one hand and have fingers left over), but there is no doubt I made out, heavily petted, and sucked a lot of them off. The one positive I can think of, though, and I left a comment on this on the other blog, is at least I got some sexual practice out of these assholes. I got to perfect my sexual skills and technique for lovers who actually deserved my attentions.
Now ... God, what a different woman I am now. I can spot an asshole a mile off, and believe me, he won't get anywhere near yours truly. I've run into a lot of these types online. I remember one guy sent me an instant message on msn messenger once, then sent me all these little symbols of people having sex when I asked him what he liked to do. Guess what his nickname was? "Truckguy". Big surprise, eh? I can so easily see this guy sitting at a table with his buds, scoping out the fat chicks for the end of the evening, when they've been shot down by every single woman they consider "bangable". I can hear the snickers, the crude comments ... I've heard them all before.
Someone on the other blog commented that he thought the fat girls were getting what they deserved, as they had the "low morals" to have sex with someone they just met. Well, let me enlighten him and all other people who think like this. Fat girls who have sex with guys they just meet do not have low morals. They are just lonely. Do you think they wouldn't prefer for some guy to take them to dinner and send them roses? But they know that is not likely to happen, so they take what they can get. Remember, fat women are women ... why do people forget that? And they have the same sexual desires and frustrations that other women do. Try going without sex for months when your hormones are keeping you up at night and you can't fucking sleep because all you can think about is the last time you got laid and how good it would feel to have a dick inside you again. All of a sudden, some asshole asking you to go down on him in his car isn't such a bad option after all. Believe me, it's not the guy's charm or good looks that make her do it. It's the fucking loneliness and sexual frustration.
In the end, of course, spontaneous sex in a parking lot or motel room or wherever is not a good option, because it can lead to sexual disease as well as heartache when the fat girl realizes that the succulence of her blowjob was not enough to have the guy overlook her size, as she more than likely wished. I am just so glad that that period of my life is over, and I now have enough love and respect for myself to never ever fall prey to users and manipulators like this.
Anyway, that post got me thinking a lot about my younger days. I was definitely "hogged", allright. When my friends and I would go out to bars together, I would always be the one sitting alone at the table while my friends were asked to dance. Or guys would send over drinks with a note for my friend(s), but not for me, and I would feign excitement for the friend while thinking, "Motherfucker! Why doesn't that ever happen to me?"
I'm sure that I was considered a "last resort" by many of the guys I met and made out with. I actually had full sex with very few of them (I could probably count them on one hand and have fingers left over), but there is no doubt I made out, heavily petted, and sucked a lot of them off. The one positive I can think of, though, and I left a comment on this on the other blog, is at least I got some sexual practice out of these assholes. I got to perfect my sexual skills and technique for lovers who actually deserved my attentions.
Now ... God, what a different woman I am now. I can spot an asshole a mile off, and believe me, he won't get anywhere near yours truly. I've run into a lot of these types online. I remember one guy sent me an instant message on msn messenger once, then sent me all these little symbols of people having sex when I asked him what he liked to do. Guess what his nickname was? "Truckguy". Big surprise, eh? I can so easily see this guy sitting at a table with his buds, scoping out the fat chicks for the end of the evening, when they've been shot down by every single woman they consider "bangable". I can hear the snickers, the crude comments ... I've heard them all before.
Someone on the other blog commented that he thought the fat girls were getting what they deserved, as they had the "low morals" to have sex with someone they just met. Well, let me enlighten him and all other people who think like this. Fat girls who have sex with guys they just meet do not have low morals. They are just lonely. Do you think they wouldn't prefer for some guy to take them to dinner and send them roses? But they know that is not likely to happen, so they take what they can get. Remember, fat women are women ... why do people forget that? And they have the same sexual desires and frustrations that other women do. Try going without sex for months when your hormones are keeping you up at night and you can't fucking sleep because all you can think about is the last time you got laid and how good it would feel to have a dick inside you again. All of a sudden, some asshole asking you to go down on him in his car isn't such a bad option after all. Believe me, it's not the guy's charm or good looks that make her do it. It's the fucking loneliness and sexual frustration.
In the end, of course, spontaneous sex in a parking lot or motel room or wherever is not a good option, because it can lead to sexual disease as well as heartache when the fat girl realizes that the succulence of her blowjob was not enough to have the guy overlook her size, as she more than likely wished. I am just so glad that that period of my life is over, and I now have enough love and respect for myself to never ever fall prey to users and manipulators like this.
posted by emily pound at 12:58 PM
7 Comments:
Interesting. I also find it interesting that you say these things, when you weren't attracted to the date guy because of his size. Funny old world, sometimes...
Ian,
I may not have been 100% attracted to him, but I didn't go out in a pack with a bunch of my friends and say, "hey, let's pick up the fattest guy we see, I'll fuck him and you can hide in the closet and watch." I can't help who I'm attracted to and not attracted to, and I always treat people with respect. Don't compare me to these fucking assholes.
Hi Jennie,
Absolutely. Thin girls are probably way sluttier than fat girls because they have more sexual opportunity. They are driven by the same emotional dysfunction and needs that fat girls are. One of my girlfriends in high school must have gone through about ten boyfriends in the time I knew her. What about porn stars? There aren't too many fat ones, but plenty of so-called hot ones who will do anything with any number of guys (at one time) as long as they get paid. The double standards drive me crazy.
As far as waiting for Mr. Right, you are so, so right. As we get older, we know there is no rush to get into anything sexual. It might be frustrating, but we know it's worth the wait when we find the right guy. Which we all will. :-)
Hi Jennie,
Absolutely. Thin girls are probably way sluttier than fat girls because they have more sexual opportunity. They are driven by the same emotional dysfunction and needs that fat girls are. One of my girlfriends in high school must have gone through about ten boyfriends in the time I knew her. What about porn stars? There aren't too many fat ones, but plenty of so-called hot ones who will do anything with any number of guys (at one time) as long as they get paid. The double standards drive me crazy.
As far as waiting for Mr. Right, you are so, so right. As we get older, we know there is no rush to get into anything sexual. It might be frustrating, but we know it's worth the wait when we find the right guy. Which we all will. :-)
Hi Jennie,
Absolutely. Thin girls are probably way sluttier than fat girls because they have more sexual opportunity. They are driven by the same emotional dysfunction and needs that fat girls are. One of my girlfriends in high school must have gone through about ten boyfriends in the time I knew her. What about porn stars? There aren't too many fat ones, but plenty of so-called hot ones who will do anything with any number of guys (at one time) as long as they get paid. The double standards drive me crazy.
As far as waiting for Mr. Right, you are so, so right. As we get older, we know there is no rush to get into anything sexual. It might be frustrating, but we know it's worth the wait when we find the right guy. Which we all will. :-)
I'm expressing an opinion, it's up to you whether you post it or not. But that's fine, I won't comment again.
Ian,
Fine with me.
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