Sluts & Goddesses
I started reading the most excellent book the other day. It's called "Spectacular Sex", written by Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. For those of you who don't know, Annie Sprinkle was a famous porn star back in the day. She has been retired from that line of work for many years, having branched out into photography and performance art. I was thrilled to see that she had become a full-fledged doctor of sexology, having earned her Ph.D. She has now written this book to help those of us not as well versed in sex as she is, and I am just lapping it up, if you'll pardon the expression.
One thing she said that I could totally relate to was that when she was a teenager, she received messages both to be sexually active and to not be sexually active. I'm sure all of us did. Even from my own friends, I got mixed messages. For instance, I have always loved giving oral sex. I think I get almost as much pleasure from it as men do. For me, it is a real turn-on, seeing a man get aroused and erect, being able to caress his whole body at the same time. But my girlfriends were all disgusted when I told them this. They were like, "Ewwwwwww! How can you put a guy's dick in your mouth? They pee from that thing!" Duh. No kidding. But they're not peeing from it when I'm doing it to them, are they? I think they saw it as something that only sluts would do, suck a guy off. Well, if that's the case, then I'm a slut! A big one! :-)
I could also never understand why oral sex is such a derogatory thing. You know, when somebody wants to really diss you, they'll tell you "Suck me off" or "Suck my cock", as if it's the most contemptuous thing imaginable. Yet it's also one of the most pleasurable things imaginable, one of the best ways to bring a man to ecstasy, let him experience a little bit of heaven on earth. Go figure.
Anyway, back to the book. I just got to the chapter called "Create Your Sexpot Profile". In this chapter, one of the exercises is to think of who your inner slut and inner goddess is. You're supposed to think of your role models, who you find sexy, who you admire, who has the sexual qualities you would like to have. Then you find out who your inner slut and inner sex goddesses are. There is a questionnaire regarding your inner slut that I found very enjoyable and intriguing. One of the questions was, what is her occupation? My inner slut, I think, would work in a tattoo parlor. That way she would have access to all the tough, beefy, yummy guys coming in there. Not biker guys, they're a little too scary for me, but definitely the rock and roll guys, with the leather vests, ripped jeans, and clunky black boots. Ummmmmm yeah. I could ask them to come in the back room with me and find just the right colour ink for that bulging bicep.
Oooh boy.
I'll keep you posted on my inner goddess.
One thing she said that I could totally relate to was that when she was a teenager, she received messages both to be sexually active and to not be sexually active. I'm sure all of us did. Even from my own friends, I got mixed messages. For instance, I have always loved giving oral sex. I think I get almost as much pleasure from it as men do. For me, it is a real turn-on, seeing a man get aroused and erect, being able to caress his whole body at the same time. But my girlfriends were all disgusted when I told them this. They were like, "Ewwwwwww! How can you put a guy's dick in your mouth? They pee from that thing!" Duh. No kidding. But they're not peeing from it when I'm doing it to them, are they? I think they saw it as something that only sluts would do, suck a guy off. Well, if that's the case, then I'm a slut! A big one! :-)
I could also never understand why oral sex is such a derogatory thing. You know, when somebody wants to really diss you, they'll tell you "Suck me off" or "Suck my cock", as if it's the most contemptuous thing imaginable. Yet it's also one of the most pleasurable things imaginable, one of the best ways to bring a man to ecstasy, let him experience a little bit of heaven on earth. Go figure.
Anyway, back to the book. I just got to the chapter called "Create Your Sexpot Profile". In this chapter, one of the exercises is to think of who your inner slut and inner goddess is. You're supposed to think of your role models, who you find sexy, who you admire, who has the sexual qualities you would like to have. Then you find out who your inner slut and inner sex goddesses are. There is a questionnaire regarding your inner slut that I found very enjoyable and intriguing. One of the questions was, what is her occupation? My inner slut, I think, would work in a tattoo parlor. That way she would have access to all the tough, beefy, yummy guys coming in there. Not biker guys, they're a little too scary for me, but definitely the rock and roll guys, with the leather vests, ripped jeans, and clunky black boots. Ummmmmm yeah. I could ask them to come in the back room with me and find just the right colour ink for that bulging bicep.
Oooh boy.
I'll keep you posted on my inner goddess.
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